This is "My Story"

Academy of Kempo Martial Arts - Hamden - Shihan Frank Ciarleglio - Out of Darkness Community Walk - Connecticut - American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - Suzann Kober - Zackary Bzdyra - October 7, 2012

Pictured is Suzann Kober at the Registration Booth greeting supporters at  Hamden's 1st Annual "Out of the Darkness" walk in 2011.
 

My name is Suzann Kober and this is "My Story" of how and why I got involved with Suicide Prevention.

Suicide is a topic that most people don’t often discuss.  And the thoughts that “it will never happen to me or someone I know and love” are common.  I have to admit, I fell into those categories. But in October 2009, my oldest son lost his best friend to suicide. My heart went out to the family and my son, who I knew was grieving but didn’t show it. I started to do some research and learned that depression lead many to take their lives. Then in June 2010, I learned that another friend had taken his life.  While I knew that he was depressed, it was no less shocking. While I grieved again with family and friends, I was still just slightly removed from the real impact of suicide.

That quickly changed in July, 2010 when I received a phone call that would forever change my life. My son Zachary had been in an accident and the police wouldn’t give any information over the phone, they needed to come to the house. Head reeling and heart pounding, it seemed like forever until they showed at my house.  The police were kind when they informed me Zach had been in a car accident and had died.

This couldn’t be happening. There must be a mistake. I had seen and talked to him just 8 hours before. He was fine, laughing and talking about the fireworks that he had just come back from.  And as I left for work, “Love you Mom. See you in the morning.” But I would never see him again!!

Zachary was a great young man. He didn’t show the typical signs of suicidal behavior and didn’t seem depressed. His large group of friends shared how he was there for them when they were down. No one was aware of the internal struggle that he must have dealt with.

Suicide is an illness, just like cancer or heart disease. It needs to be brought “Out of the Darkness”.  So in 2011, I poured my energy into organizing the 1st Annual “Out of the Darkness Walk” in Hamden.  It was a tremendous walk, and the support was overwhelming. 

While nothing will bring Zachary back, his spirit remains alive and will continue to be an inspiration to me and many of those who he touched while on this planet.

Academy of Kempo Martial Arts - Hamden - Shihan Frank Ciarleglio - Out of Darkness Community Walk - Connecticut - American Foundation for Suicide Prevention - Suzann Kober - Zackary Bzdyra - October 7, 2012
In Loving Memory
 
Zachary Andrew Bzdyra
 
Sunrise July 12, 1988 - Sunset July 3, 2010

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